Sunday, May 17, 2020
My Father was a very independent and intelligent man. He was self-made and taught me to be self-reliant, and to work for my rewards. If it was to be, it was up to me. In my youth he and my Mom made a lot of mistakes with me. It was a different time, and I was able to correct those mistakes when bringing up my child. He was a very young man, starting a new career and family on his own steam. I am grateful he never crushed my spirit by punishing me for defending myself. He understood prejudice from his own family, and would back me up when needed. I understood our early relationship better in later years as I faced similar adult difficulties. I forgave all the mistakes from both of my parents long ago. My Dad and I moved past his divorce with my Mom and developed a nice relationship without demands or needs. I never heard him utter a single huff of negativity about his new wife Judy. She always treated me in a kind and friendly manner. They seemed to be very contented and I was very happy for the two of them. I think they made a great life for themselves and Judy made my Dad happy. His passing just became known to me yesterday. My heart skipped a beat when I saw the small collection of envelopes and a package. The handwriting was different and I instinctively knew what that meant. I am so grateful to Heather, Hali and Judy for their heartfelt letter and the items they enclosed. I am especially grateful for his familiar college ring that my little boy fingers once clutched on his hand as we walked together. It fits me perfectly. We are both USAF Veterans and it will adorn my hand on the appropriate holidays. My heart goes out to Judy. Thank you for taking care of my Father. My pain in the moment, can only be a fraction of yours. Life is brief and we will all be together again someday. Today, I give thanks to my Dad's early lessons and later, his advice. I am living a retired life at 59 years of age. I own my house in full and I have a loving woman by my side. I thank my Dad for not abandoning my Mother and I overseas as his parents wished. I thank him for teaching me how to work hard and be clever and creative at the same time. I find I am more like my Father than I ever thought I would be. I will miss him and our long chats on the phone. Love you Pop! Steve
